Goal setting - You CAN do it!

Set goals and you’ll achieve them, sounds easy right? Then how come so many of us don’t achieve our goals?

  • The goals are too big and take a long time to achieve so we feel demotivated and give up.

  • We place unrealistic expectations on ourselves.

  • Our lives are busy with general living and then unexpected circumstances and events get in the way.

  • Negative self-talk.

  • Procrastination- just getting started seems difficult..

  • Fear.

  • Lack of support, negative influences.

Question – Are these barriers real or are they perceived?

Take time to identify and examine your barriers, acknowledge them and then consider how to address them. This will help you to determine if you need to change your goal.

Are you being realistic? For example:

I’m too old! – This could be real for certain goals; wanting to climb mount Everest when you are 80 is maybe a little unrealistic. Although Yuichiro Miura did accomplish this, so nothing is impossible.

I can’t do it! – Negative self-talk. You need to look within and decide where this belief/habit comes from. Is it from past experience? is it from others telling you their opinions?

If your internal voice is positive, then the affect it has on how you see yourself and how much you value yourself is huge. The same can be said if your internal voice is negative. Start small with 5 things you like about yourself, repeat them over and over again and it will naturally improve your self-image an in-turn your self-esteem (how much you value and appreciate yourself).

You need to decide if you can turn a negative into a positive. What do you want to be true in the future? I can’t run a marathon yet, but I will in the future. I couldn’t run 5k a month ago but with a training plan, I can now; so with small steps I can achieve my goal.

Fear is real. Fear is scary! Fear is a barrier! - Facing our fears whatever they may be is a challenge. But fear can be overcome; it takes confidence, it take courage and it takes determination. If you’re facing your fears and trying to overcome them you are all of those things; confident, courageous and determined!

I’ve got no motivation – Motivation is ‘what drives you’ to behave in a certain way or to take a particular action. It is your WHY. Your why is the strongest reason for you to desire something. It is not what you desire but the strong reason you desire it.

Are you going to accept these barriers or are you going to challenge them? People can get comfortable with being uncomfortable. You can challenge and overcome them if you make the decision to do so, and take positive action.

Ask yourself, if what you are doing today is getting you closer to where you want to be tomorrow?

 Setting your goals

A goal without a plan is just a wish!

Goals need to be realistic but that isn’t to say you can’t go big! If you have big goal to achieve then breaking this down so into mini goals (milestones) will help tremendously. It is vital that you recognise and celebrate these milestones, as this all contributes to boosting your motivation.

Be clear about what you want to achieve!

SMART goals, how does help to set your goals? Unrealistic expectations are a biggy. It’s why many people never achieve their goals, as they are placing high expectations on themselves and it’s demotivating when things don’t go to plan.

Specific – Are you clear about what you want to achieve.
Measurable – How will you know when you’ve reached your target/goal.
Achievable – Are you attempting too much, don’t set yourself up to fail.
Relevant – Do you have the resources to make this happen? This could be time, money, support, etc.
Time bound – Over what period of time do you expect to achieve your goal.

 Proper preparation prevents poor performance

Plan and prioritize – you need to plan daily tasks to meet short term milestones and long term goals.

Task initiation – you need the ability to motivate yourself to begin the tasks by directing your behaviour and actions.

Organisation - keep track of where you are and where you want to be.

 Moving forward

Think about what you want to achieve and be realistic.

Break down your milestones and celebrate them.

Avoid negative self-talk, your amazing, focus on the positives. Be confident and believe in yourself.

Involve friends with a positive outlook, they will encourage you on your journey.

Accept support, no man is an island!

About the author

Our lives run at such a fast pace these days and everything is mobile – banking, bookings, our social lives! What about learning? Learning takes place in so many ways, every day of your life you learn new things. That's why I love working at The National Training Academy, we can make a real difference.

A bit about me...

A couple of years ago I took the plunge and moved to the coast in North Wales, not knowing anyone, not knowing the area it was a real leap of faith, but it was the best move ever! Through lockdown it has been great, having beaches and mountains on my doorstep I'm truly blessed. The great outdoors is one of lives simple pleasures.

In my spare time I love riding my Triumph Tiger (there's a growing number of female motorcyclists out there!). I love cooking, lockdown has given me the opportunity and time to try many new recipes, curries seem to have become a special favourite. 

Author: Claire Arthur

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