Learn to let go

10 Things You Gradually Learn as You Let Go of the Uncontrollable 

It can be difficult to leave a long-term life situation behind, even when your inner-wisdom tells you that things aren’t right and it’s time to let go. At this point, you can choose to let go and endure the sudden pain of leaving behind the familiar to make way for a new chapter in your life, or you can stay and suffer a constant, aching pain that gradually eats away at your heart and mind, like a cancer… until you wake up one day and find yourself buried so deep in the dysfunction of the situation that you barely remember who you are and what you desire.


Don’t do this you yourself!


Things will happen that are unexpected, undesirable, and uncontrollable. But you can always choose to take the next tiniest step. Be brave and take it…


Be willing to make mistakes, learn from them, let go of them, and move along.


Truth be told, it’s always necessary to accept when some part of your life has reached its inevitable end. Closing the door, completing the chapter, turning the page, etc. – it doesn’t matter what you title it; what matters is that you find the strength to leave in the past those parts of your life that are over.


It’s all about embracing the truth: What has happened is uncontrollable; what you do now changes everything!


Of course, knowing this and actually living a lifestyle that reinforces this truth are two very different things. Letting go is NOT easy – it’s a journey that is traveled one day at a time. If you stick with it, here’s what your journey will ultimately teach you:


  • The most powerful changes happen in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over everything you don’t.

  • Most people make themselves unhappy simply by finding it impossible to accept life just as it is presenting itself right now.

  • The secret to getting ahead is to focus all of your energy not on fixing and fighting the old, but on building and growing something new.

  • Stepping onto a brand new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation that no longer fits, or no longer exists.

  • Letting go doesn’t mean you don’t care about something or someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only thing you really have control over is yourself in this moment.

  • When you are lost in worry, it is easy to mistake your worries for reality, instead of recognizing that they are just thoughts.

  • The biggest obstacle to growth you’ll ever have to overcome is your mind. Once you can overcome that, you can overcome anything.

  • You can always control the way you respond to what happens, and in your response is your power.

  • Often letting go is simply changing the labels you place on a situation – it’s looking at the same situation with fresh eyes and an open mind.

  • There is absolutely nothing about your present circumstances that prevents you from making progress, one tiny step at a time.

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